One of the problems with the morning after is that there is a whiplash that comes with it. Where the night before, the partner of our intimacy could do no wrong, the morning after, it feels like they can do no right. At this point there is a temptation, a very strong temptation to abort the whole experience, and the person or persons with it. “Throwing the baby out with the bath water.” “The morning after pill,” this is a bitter pill to swallow. Hebrews tells us, “See to it that no one misses the grace of God and that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many,“ Hebrews 12:15 NIV.
This can be a very big problem in The Church, because for new believers the high of “new love” can be a set up for great disappointment. The greater the high, the worse the crash. A very big problem for the uninitiated is that our old man is not very discerning. It can be very difficult to tell the difference between the high or chemistry of the flesh, and the high or chemistry of the Spirit. The former is fleeting – the latter is ever lasting. We are not talking about an earthly romance here, but a heavenly one. The first love of the heavenly romance is meant to be everlasting, Revelation 2:4, 5:
“Yet I hold this against you: You have forsaken your first love.
Remember the height from which you have fallen!
Repent and do the things you did at first.
If you do not repent,
I will come to you and remove your lampstand from its place.”
Love!
A repost by Jay Ferris, originally posted on December 14, 2012
Loving Like God 
“Until we embrace what God is after, and allow God to work in us – teaching us how to Love as He Loves with those He gives us, we are aborting what He calls Church.” Lisa Weger
Jay said: “It can be very difficult to tell the difference between the high or chemistry of the flesh, and the high or chemistry of the Spirit. The former is fleeting – the latter is ever lasting. We are not talking about an earthly romance here, but a heavenly one.”
Part of what I believe Jay is talking about is how discombobulating it is when people experience His Love together. Especially when it crosses gender lines. “Is this okay to feel?” is a huge question that comes up. It is not a situation that is talked about or condoned in “church” circles…. the predominant thinking is that that kind of Passion is only legitimate between married couples. (And yet, there is no gender in Christ.) You can experience this Passion and feel pressured – either from within yourself – and/or from external forces, to “abort”. So what started as a very legitimate Passion that He puts between us – His Love expressed on the horizontal with those that He’s putting together in particular – now becomes aborted, because we don’t have the discernment, revelation and/or commitment to see and live what He is after.
For a new believer, or a believer who is just coming into this realm of understanding and experience, it can be a fleeting experience rather than an eternal one. The problem as I see it – and a question that Jay brought up many times – is what are the alternatives to learning to live in this Passion on the horizontal? If God is calling people into Him, what is a legitimate expression of what He is doing? Isn’t it in these real, passionate relationships? If we cut off these relationships out of uneasiness, what is left as an expression of Him? It seems what’s left is what man calls “church”.
Until we embrace what God is after, and allow God to work in us – teaching us how to Love as He Loves with those He gives us, we are aborting what He calls Church.
Lisa, what a fabulous exposition of what Jay said! Thank you so much for sharing this.
Lisa, I fully agree with you, and what Pamela stated
Love springing from immaturity (puppy love), or from lust (sensual, fleshly) is not sustainable in either the natural or spiritual. True love has a distinct look and sound to it. It is not easily seen through natural sight or religious vision. It’s not heard by the natural ear or by the religious platitudes. It’s looks like the couple that you know who have slept together in the same bed for the greater part of their lives; who finish each other’s sentences, who are not so hung up on saying .”I love you” as they are about being one with the other.
True love looks like a lonely knoll in the middle of a garbage dump where only the true lovers stand, it sounds like the ringing of the hammer on nails and the screams of the tortured . True love doesn’t look for a morning after pill, it looks for another day to be ravished by the lover of his or her soul.
True love is seen and known by a living demonstration of loving one another (Jn. 13:35). It’s so moving in this cold, callous, and empty contemporary life. The morning after pill is for those who play at love.
So when they had dined, Jesus said to Simon Peter, Simon, son of Jonas, lovest thou me more than these? He saith unto Him, I know I really messed up that night but, you know Lord, You know that I love you. If I could do it all over again, if only I could go back in time Lord, But I can’t! Oh, Lord, I am so undone by what I have done.(my paraphrase). There is no place for a morning after pill here. There is only, ……And when he had spoken this he saith unto him, Follow me. (Jn.21:19b)
WOW!
true intimacy is sustained ‘in’ Love