In our understanding of spiritual passion, we need to be constantly redirected away from the passion of romantic flesh and into the passion of the Divine Romance. In the Spirit there are no gender specific body parts. Words can help us to test the things of the flesh, but they cannot take us to a place where only the Spirit can go.
In short, relating of God is like being born of God. It is not a matter of human decision or husband’s will:
“Which were born, not of blood, nor of the will of the flesh, nor of the will of man, but of God.” John 1:13 KJV
It’s kind of like the guy who wanted out of the military, he kept on saying, “That’s not it.” To everything he saw, and every place he went. Nobody could do anything with him or stop him, so they finally wrote up his formal discharge, and invited him into the office to sign it, and he said, “That’s it.”
You know you have arrived out of the system, and into someplace new when you get there, but there is no verbal set of instructions as to how to get there. Just pray that you do:
“For this reason I kneel before the Father, from whom his whole family in heaven and on earth derives its name. I pray that out of his glorious riches he may strengthen you with power through his Spirit in your inner being, so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith. And I pray that you, being rooted and established in love, may have power, together with all the saints, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ, and to know this love that surpasses knowledge—that you may be filled to the measure of all the fullness of God. Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us, to him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations, for ever and ever! Amen.” Ephesians 3:14-21 NIV