The Love of Women

davidandjonathon“I grieve for you, Jonathan my brother; you were very dear to me.  Your love for me was wonderful, more wonderful than that of women.”  2 Samuel 1:26

Soon to be King David, upon hearing of the death of Jonathan, the son of Saul, and the one with whom his soul had been knit by the Lord, said something about the love that they had shared. What finally struck me after many years of thinking about their clarion love and connection was that the love they shared was better than the “love of women”.

This is not about how men love women nor is it about gay males. No it is about a much greater love than that. This is about the way that women love. These were two valiant warriors, yet where love was concerned they did not love one another as might be expected in some Good Ole boys club kind of a way. No this invites us to take another look at the way that women love.

Ultimately all those who are found in Christ are in Him and He in them as being His bride. There is a quality of love found in women that is very rarely found in men. This passage from the Old Testament is rare if not unique, and demands that we, as men take another look at how we love.

It is enough that David has put it this way, without me trying to expound on the difference. I leave it to you to contemplate what this must mean. Perhaps if we once understood it, we would leave off from our heavy-handed male lover roles, and find ourselves moving toward this truly amazing kind of love that is found in the hearts of women.

Lord, help us to melt into this feminine way of loving in time so that the world might “know.”

Love!

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Ownership

marthaandmaryJust a word about ownership: In the hope of keeping this brief, I will leave out the address of the various passages covered. I have touched upon them in other contexts for over a year now.

It says of the believers in the early church, right after and as a consequence of Pentecost that there was not a needy person among them, and this, the fruit of no one thinking that anything they had was their own any longer. They had all things in common. In the wake of the Baptism of The Holy Spirit, there was a radical change of mind where ownership was concerned. Before the Baptism there was a sense of ownership. People were taken up with owning things, now they owned nothing in this sense any longer.

One could conclude that this was the end of ownership, except that Jesus made a promise, that in exchange for allowing Him to change their relational priorities, and their ownership priorities, He would give them, and us, “100 times relationships and 100 times houses” as well, Mark 10: 29-30. These relationships would best be described as family relationships.

In the fulfillment of this promise, we would now own 100 times the houses we might have owned in the past.

There are those who have come to be with us in the distress of these days in our war with cancer – “Crebbs.” Some of them are people whom The Lord has given to us, and we to them. They now own our home as part of the fulfillment of the promise. That’s the deal. On the one hand, they have lost all sense of ownership in the ways they used to think and possess, and yet they now own 100 times what they did before.

It’s a different kind of ownership, however. My wife and I own our home, yet not in the sense that this once was true. Now we are servants living in our home, and when others whom the Lord has made ours show up, they are also servants in our home. This old house is no longer occupied by owners, but by servants. The difference in attitude is wonderful. All the negative things that go along with feelings of ownership have now given way to feelings of servanthood. Those who come as servants share the load that once we bore alone. It is no longer we the owners, and they the guests, we all share in the responsibility of the service of the household.

It is said that Jesus went to visit His friends in Martha’s house. That was back in the days when those who followed Jesus still owned things. The attitude this generates, and the problems this creates are clearly seen in the difference between the attitudes of Martha, and Mary, her sister. Martha was the owner, and Mary was a sister living in Martha’s house. Mary was a sister, not a servant. That left all the weight of servant hood on Martha, with very little of the felt need to serve on Mary. Even back in those days, Jesus says of Mary that she had chosen the better part. What’s wrong with this picture? The fact is there are hosting responsibilities that go along with ownership.

The fact is there are things that go with ownership that can, and often are very onerous. This very burdensome aspect of ownership has been done away in Christ, when the house has many “owners,” owners in the form of servants of the household.

This difference in attitude, and responsibility is very big and very important! This is another point of the warfare associated with these wonderful and new relationships that are ours in Christ. This is not some new and irresponsible variety of relationships, it has responsibilities, and clearly defined roles that go along in the wonder of it all. This was never meant to be some gathering of irresponsible “warm fuzzies,” sitting around and singing verse after verse of Kumbaya, no, this is a new and clearly defined way of living in and by the Spirit. Not to share the responsibilities that go along with it is to contribute to the warfare against the saints, not the fellowship of the saints.

So let us be done with the old attitudes of ownership and hospitality, and embrace the new as co-heirs of this amazing and passionate new way of living.

Love!

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Cancer, The Crab

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This is a good typical representation of the Zodiac sign for Cancer – the Crab. In German the word is Crebb or “Crebbs,” and that is the word that is used in Germany for what we know in America as “Cancer.”

A question asked of “cancer” patients with increasing frequency is, “What is you pain level, on a scale between 0 and 10?”

The next question usually follows up with, and what does the pain feel like, and suggests a whole bunch of possibilities, none of which come very close to hitting the nail on the head. Both the Zodiac, and cancer or crebbs, go back before the Greeks. They knew even then what cancer feels like. It feels like having crabs inside of you body seeking what they may devour, what they can grab hold of and tear off to feed themselves. Cancer tumors are always looking for near-by organs from which they can rob nourishment, blood supply and oxygen. Larger tumors feel like they are grabbing hold of you insides on both sides of themselves, and pulling things toward themselves. Then there are the little crabs that scamper around on the beach that are too fast to catch. These are like the little agents of metastatic cancer. They run off and hide looking for an opportunity to dig in and begin to grow.

On my most recent trip to the National Cancer Research Institute in Bethesda, Maryland, I took a survey to see how many practitioners who were there knew what the German word for “Cancer” is. No one knew. Size can not only be very blind, but also very arrogant. Wait, it gets worse. The surgical research division has the zodiac sign for cancer on their uniform. It contains the crab, and Hercules with a sword intent on killing the crab. The first one I came across wearing this symbol, also had no idea, not a clue about the sign or that the German word for Cancer is “crebbs.”

Finally my very German Surgeon came in also wearing this insignia on his uniform, and so, once again I asked the question: What is the German word for Cancer. Of course he got it right, but that seemed to be as far as his thinking had gone on the subject.

I suspect that much could be learned if we were not so determined to forget about history.

“… are condemned to repeat it.”

Love!

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